4 Indicators Of Wrong Soul Ties

Out of the hundreds of video podcasts I’ve recorded, my highest viewed videos on YouTube are on “Breaking Soul Ties”. I receive countless emails, letters and messages from women and men with questions about this intimate topic. They are in wrong relationships, admit that it’s wrong, but cannot seem to move on. Teenagers have crossed the line with various partners and don’t know how to make things right. Old flames have re-kindled an inappropriate secret romance. They grieve in their soul when that person rejects them, moves on to someone else, or God clearly instructs them to end things. To put it mildly, soul ties are powerful.

What are soul ties?
A soul tie is an emotional bond or connection that unites you with someone else. You can become bound to a person through your soul.

Have you found yourself tormented by thoughts about a person, excessively wondering about them, checking on them, rehearsing times with them? If so, you have soul ties. Have you grieved over a severed relationship with someone you were once close to? If so, you have soul ties.

Soul ties are formed through close friendships, through vows, commitments and promises, and through physical intimacy. Not all soul ties are bad. God wants us to have healthy relationships that build us up, provide wisdom, and give godly counsel. God will strategically bring good relationships into our lives to form healthy soul ties. “When David had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own life” (1 Sam. 18:1 (AMP). In contrast, Satan always brings counterfeits into our lives to form unhealthy soul ties.

A few ways unhealthy soul ties can be formed include:

· Abusive relationships (physically, sexually, emotionally, verbally)
· Adulterous affairs
· Sex before marriage
· Obsessive entanglements with a person (giving them more authority in your life than you give to God)
· Controlling relationships

Four Indicators of Wrong Soul Ties

1. “I feel so confused.”
When you are outside the will of God in a particular relationship, you will experience confusion. Your feelings will tell you one thing; your spirit will tell you another. That’s where the confusion comes in. “God is not the author of confusion but of peace” (1 Cor. 14:33, KJV). If you are not experiencing peace in this relationship or “soul tie”, then something is not right. That is the Holy Spirit warning you and working to get your attention. You need to respect these warnings. They are not to be brushed off or treated as a small thing. Honor the Holy Spirit’s leading in your life. You should not feel confused if you are in the will of God, and honestly, why would you want to be any other place? When you are confused about a relationship, you can make unwise, regretful decisions. You need to take purposeful steps in feeding your spirit the truth of God’s Word. The truth always overrides deception.

2. “I’m just miserable.”
When we persist in doing something that we know God is not in agreement with, we will experience a type of misery that doesn’t go away. You may feel uneasy inside, extreme anxiety, sorrow or pain. You may feel disgusted by what you’re doing, yet feel powerless to change your situation. Those are all indicators that Satan is at work in your life to destroy it. David cried out in Psalm 38:8, “I am exhausted and completely crushed. My groans come from an anguished heart.” (NLT). If that describes how you feel when you’re alone, I want you to know there is hope. Psalm 23:3 says, “He restores my soul” (NIV). Those four little words will redefine your life. God will restore your mind, your will and your emotions.

3. “My mind is tormented.”
The mind of Christ is one that is at peace no matter what the circumstances. When Satan has invaded our souls through wrong soul ties, our minds will not be at rest. This is where your battle takes place. Is your mind constantly replaying images of the past and rehearsing previous conversations like a broken record? Do your thoughts produce fear or make you feel unclean? Whatever is going on in your mind is affecting your emotional state. Your feelings are indicators of what you are thinking about. Second Corinthians 10:5 says that we are to renew our minds by taking “captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (NIV). I will be the first to admit that this is not easy, but it is necessary. You can do this. As a Christian you can get your thoughts under the control of your reborn spirit. How? By speaking God’s Word out of your mouth every single time a negative thought enters your mind. Don’t just think it, speak it. It can be as simple as saying: “Thank You, Lord, that you restore my soul”… over and over and over. Be persistent. There’s nothing Satan hates more than to hear you speak the Word of God and the name of Jesus out of your mouth!

4. “I didn’t mean to disobey God…on purpose.”
If you feel like you have been dealing with a situation for far too long and nothing seems to help you get beyond it, remember this phrase: God will not advance your instructions beyond your last act of disobedience. If you don’t fully obey what God is telling you to do, you will never move beyond your current circumstances. I don’t know what that means to you, but I know what it meant for me years ago. I was desperate to move beyond my circumstances no matter how painful it would be.

Why would we disobey God?

· We doubt our ability to hear from God.
· It hurts too badly.
· It’s uncomfortable.
· It’s not what our flesh “wants” to do.
· We say that we are waiting for God to change us.
· We are waiting for God to change someone else.

Rather than simply obey God, I believe we try to find answers that won’t be uncomfortable. We wait for an easier way, but we stay miserable inside. What is God telling you to do? Be honest with yourself right now. If God was standing in front of you right now, what do you believe He would instruct you to do in your situation? Don’t go another day, month, or year struggling—obey God’s instructions. Remember, partial obedience is still disobedience. Delayed obedience is still disobedience. Do what God is telling you to do knowing ahead of time that it’s always for your benefit. God is not trying to hurt you. He’s trying to help you. He sees what you don’t see. You will never regret obeying God. Never. Your life isn’t over because a relationship is. God wants you to let go of the past and get on a pursuit. He has big dreams for your life.


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50 thoughts on “4 Indicators Of Wrong Soul Ties

  1. Wanjiku Mucebiu says:


    You are heaven sent, and angel sent down to talk to me right now.
    The last paragraph, just eased so much burden and pain in me.
    Am literally in tears.
    God bless you Terri.

  2. Rhondeen says:

    Terri i have read so many articles that still had me wondering if i had a wrong soul tie. Most just focus on the fact that they are created through sexual intimacy. This guy in my life is a christian and i tell you he has not led me down any wrong paths. still i knew something was off. I had put him higher than God in my life and hadn’t realized. I felt that this just couldn’t be wrong. He was perfect. Still I found myself thinking about him so much too much. I realized that i just didn’t sit right and that I always felt confused about what should be our next step. I felt a constant push and pull mentally. thank you for saying it out loud or at least in black and white.

  3. Marie Duenas says:

    I am so grateful I stumbled upon this message & I feel this was divine intervention for me to see this deeply profound, impactful message. I see this as Gods revelation to me. I have struggled with this issue for sometime now. I entangled myself in this soul tie and reading this message was very relative to what i have been experiencing. I felt like i was reviewing my story in plainview. I am so blessed by your message! Thank you & may God continue to use you for his glory.

  4. Rei Rei says:

    Hi Terry,

    Thank you so much for your message! Reading this has blessed my life in an instant and helped me to see where I have been going wrong. I blamed my ex partner for everything that went wrong for so long, even though it’s been more than a year since we’ve been split. He keeps trying to creep back in to my life even though he has another girlfriend and a baby on the way and I keep letting him and that is where the problem lies. But now after reading this I feel stronger and can tell him to leave me alone and move on with my life! He has been my downfall for far too long now but I will no longer let him control my life anymore. Sorry for the overshare but thank you so much for this message, I really needed to hear this today. It truly is heaven sent. God bless you, Terri.

  5. Deliver Me says:

    Hi Terry!

    Thank you so much for sharing! Your comment about being miserable and disobeying God has truly help me understand why I have so much anxiety. I now understand why God will never bless my relationships if I keep disobeying his word and doing things my way.

  6. Kiara says:

    I am / going through a situation where I have a wrong soul tie, and didn’t know what to do about it and what it meant. This has helped me so much words cannot even describe. Thank you so much

  7. Laila says:

    I can’t sleep at the moment thinking about someone who i am unsure about that I have done the deed with. I stopped my prayer mid way and I decided to google soul ties, read this page and everything makes sense. God answered my prayer within seconds! Thank you for this. I will no longer continue intimacy with the person.

  8. Jean says:

    Terri, you are amazing how you communicate this informative. This is such a personal tender subject and you handle it with the grace and tenderness that Jesus would. My hat is off to you and I’ll send others to your website.
    You truly are sent of God!

  9. Christine Phillips says:

    Well ill be joining the majority in saying God has blessed me and enlightened me with this word. Thanks for putting it out there. I could really use some relational perspective and prayer….

  10. joseph says:

    Thank you for your teaching on ungodly soul ties, it,s what I needed to go with my teaching on Generational Curese and ungodly ties. THANK YOU.

  11. Pamela says:

    Thank You soooooo much for this write up.
    It has further explained my convictions that when GOD is not involved in a thing /relationship then there would be no peace there.

  12. Annie says:

    I really like the way you explained this issue of the soul ties to me now I have imformation to share with others who are going through this soulties situation

  13. Debbie says:

    You are a star shining deep inside our hearts where only God sees everything hidden deep emotions killing us softly that’s where the holy spirit send you Terry to deliver this message.it has indeed touched so many and we are now on a journey to healing God bless you

  14. Whitney Griffith says:

    Thank you for the information on soul ties. I was unaware i was in one and now i know what step to take to break it. Thank you Terri.

  15. Liz says:

    Wow! This blessed my life instantly! Its like a light bulb just clicked in my brain! I know that I have soul-ties w/the man I just left just less than a month ago. God, told me to leave because of various issues, #1 he was not planning on marrying me & (2) verbal abuse. I was wondering why I would still be thinking about a man that I felt really didn’t love me the way he should. This explained it all, never truly know how many others are going through the same situation as you! But God is greater than it all. This to shall pass, and my husband who loves me is on his way, sent from God! Thank you Terri!!

  16. Lizz says:

    This is exactly what I needed as well as everyone else here. I have struggled with this soul tie for almost 5 years, this man has broken me over and over again, cheated on me, left me, came back, impregnated his gf and still continued to come in and out of my life. I realize I have put him above myself and my family but most importantly my God. I have allowed this man to be my downfall over and over again and rob me of joy and possibly finding a good Godly man. Thank you!

  17. Brenda Carroll says:

    This explained to me what I needed to understand today as I was studying in a different course at my church and discussion with others. God has been amazing in my life and continues to be at my side thru it all!! Thank you

  18. hope olivia says:

    thanks for allowing God to use you to minister to my feinting soul, iwant God to restore my soul and position me in his purpose.

  19. Amy Hines says:

    …just WOW… God has brought me so much confirmation to help me understand this “invisible string” my dear, wise and Holy Spirit-filled friend has been telling me she sees that need to be severed. I have been searching diligently for this invisible “string” as I so want to be fully free to move into all God has in store for me. I had never heard this term “soul tie” before this past weekend — and since, I have heard it from two different people. One mentioned it indirectly, the other came right up to me to ask me if I knew what it was….thus, inspiring my search…. and PRAISE GOD!!!! NOW, I understand what I’ve been experiencing as well as what my ex-boyfriend was experiencing (with respect to his ex-girlfriend he claimed to still be “in love with”) that inflicted so much hurt when we were together….. Thank you, Terri. God bless you abundantly for your obedience to be the salt and the light to help others find freedom and healing from things they don’t even understand are pulling them down! I’m going to dive deeper to find how to break these ties now!!

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